In Pursuit of Perfection?

There's this thing that we do...its called the need for perfection.

We refrain from putting up a website until we have all the copy, the photos and the impeccable message we want to convey, just so.

We refrain from trying something new or different because we might stink at it.

We don't write because our writing may not be as good as it can be. Or, it may actually suck.

We reach for the outcomes we want and want them now; if they don't come really-fast-soon, we assume we're doing something wrong.

We look at our bank account, our status, our likes, our accomplishments, our accolades, and our placement demeaning our sense of worth and value as we draw conclusions about our current position.

We look at our partner or the wanta-be-potential partner and search for faults and evidence of imperfection - needing him or her to be only-a-little, or quite-a-lot different - right now.

We judge, categorize, pigeon-hole, criticize, and evaluate based on some illusion of perfection.

Following Your Path, Ingredients for life, FreedomChristine MeyerMarch 4, 2016Comment

Ask a Different Question. It's Important.

Why are questions important?

Because the questions you ask make you more aware of the answers. If you don't ask a question, the answer might be smack-dab-in-your-face and you wouldn't know it, so asking a question makes you more aware of the answers that are there.

If I said to you, “It’s a cat” and you hadn’t asked me a question similar to, “What kind of animal is that?”, you’d have no idea what I was talking about and you'd look at me like I was a crazy lady. Awkwaaaaard.

If you're asking questions and not liking the answers, maybe it's time to have a look-see at the questions and what the questions are highlighting. If your questions are more pointed at the problems you don't want vs. the solutions you do want, the answers you continue to attract will be more of a match to the problems rather than the solutions.

Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerFebruary 26, 2016 Comments

Who Moved Your Potatoes and Where Did They Go?

There's something you want.

You don't have it yet. That's probably why you still want it.

It's taking soooo long.

"Where is it, where is it, where is it?", you ask.

"It's missing", you say. "I don't know where it is. I don't know how to find it. I don' t know how to get it. I don't know how to make it happen."

Have you ever gone looking for something that was missing (let's say in this case, potatoes) that you couldn't find and soon after you gave up looking for the missing potatoes, there they were?

Have you ever wanted something that you didn't have and once you decided to think of something else instead of the thing you didn't have - the thing you wanted that you formerly didn't have - is now yours?

Ingredients for life, Following Your Path, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerFebruary 19, 2016Comment

So You Think You Want Control?

You want a way to control what's going on around you so that it doesn't feel so random and unpredictable.

You want...predictability.

You want consistency from the one you're with.

You want to know what's going to happen in a future that hasn't happened yet.

You want...certainty.

Not in a boring kind-of-way that means you have to plan every last-thing right down to the details of what you're going to eat for lunch next Tuesday at 11:53:42 am, ET. Nawwww...not in that way. ;)

But you do want to be prepared. You want to know. You want a sense of control over your life.

Maybe you feel it's all out-of-control.

Maybe controlling as many and as much as you can would make you feel better.

Outlook on Life, BeliefsChristine MeyerFebruary 12, 2016Comment

That Cowboy Hat Makes Me Look Fat

Several years ago while in a Western Gear store in Texas, I heard a girl over-yonder say, "This cowboy hat makes me look fat."

I thought, "Well, there you have it. If you think it, it shall be it." That girl was far, far, far from anything you would call fat, heavy or over-weight.

But she believed it.

How you perceive your world is everything.

How you feel about how you're perceiving is everything.

What you believe forms your perceptions.

Outlook on Life, BeliefsChristine MeyerFebruary 5, 2016Comment

Power to the Passion...or Not?

Passion is ballyhooed everywhere. If you open a book, Twitter, FB, Instragram or even your grandma's favorite magazine publication - someone is likely talking about passion and hashtagging it (and I probably will too).

There are 7 + 3 steps to finding your passion and 11 more to follow it, sometimes with a concealed or blatant message of, "A life lived without passion is not worth living" (or something of that sort).

So...what about passion?

Do *you* have it?

Do you feel it?

Do you have fleeting glimpses of it and get a sense of what it is when you search Google images?

Do you want it?

Do you think you should have it?

Ingredients for lifeChristine MeyerJanuary 29, 2016PassionComment

Do Your Cupcakes Include Peas and Noodles?

You're not likely to eat something again that doesn't taste good so why would you think and talk about something that doesn't feel good again and again and again?

It's because ...

It's how you've received attention in the past.

It's because...

It's what you think you're supposed to do to solve the things that seem out-of-place.

It's because...

It's what you've seen and experienced other people doing.

And it's because...

You might misunderstand how you construct your reality.

Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerJanuary 22, 2016 Comments

Can You Fake It Till You Make It?

Sometimes, our daughter will get this look on her face and she’ll act as if she’s really mad about something. She would convince any movie director that she’s really mad - but she's not. She’s playing a role and acting it out; she's not feeling it - she's pretending to feel something she's not.

Do you ever fake how you feel? Like feeling happy when you're not?

Do you ever pretend to feel something you're not? Like feeling abundant when you feel utterly broke?

Do you ever pretend to feel confident when you feel insecure?

Do you use the words that sound positive to try to cover up how you feel?

How often do you fake it for the sake of – looking good, not looking bad, hiding, ease, impressing someone - faking how you feel mostly because of the way it would look to someone else or because that's what you think you're supposed to do?

Goals, Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerJanuary 15, 2016Comment

Your Habits of Thought Are the Only Thing Standing in the Way of You and Your Goals

You're about one week in from making your New Year's Resolutions and setting fresh goals.

How's it going so far? Hanging in there? Doing awesome? Faltering on what you were so excited about one short week ago?

Why do you make resolutions, anyway?

Do you plan on not-following through?

Do you expect to follow-through or do you expect you won't?

Are you motivating yourself to do the thing you said you were going to do with negative consequences?

How do you feel about your resolutions and goals?

Do you believe you can follow-through, achieve them, own them, live them, drive them, spend them and kiss them?

What you believe and how you feel matters and the achievement of what you want hinges on it.

Outlook on Life, GoalsChristine MeyerJanuary 8, 2016Comment