My dad frequently said I was stubborn when I was a kid. “You always had a mind of your own.”
Which is interesting, because I (mostly) did what I was told. ;)
I did my best to be a “good” girl. I tried not to ruffle any feathers. I tip-toed through the delicate eggshells. I was mindful of what to say, when to say it, what not to say, where not to step…all so that I wouldn’t set off any landmines.
Read MoreThere’s so much happening in the world right now, but what I’m noticing is that it isn’t just the chaos “out there”.
It’s the internal chaos many people are feeling. Something is shifting—not just externally, but in how we relate to our lives. I can feel it in people. I hear it in the conversations I’m having with clients, friends and colleagues. A restlessness. A questioning. A sense that something no longer fits… even if everything looks “fine.”
Read MoreIf I could speak to myself at the start of my coaching career—back in 2003—I’d tell her this:
Trust your knowing more than the industry’s “shoulds”. You already sense what others can’t see. You read energy patterns like other people read spreadsheets. That’s not something to downplay, it’s your edge. It’s what will set you apart long before anyone else understands what you’re really doing.
Read MoreRecently, I was featured in a Forbes Coaches Council article on anxiety in entrepreneurship. While I appreciate this conversation becoming more public, there’s something essential that often gets missed.
Most people, including entrepreneurs, accept anxiety as part of the deal.
It’s expected.
Normalized.
…Often, quietly tolerated.
But tolerance is very different from capacity.
Read MoreThis time of year has a way of whispering (or shouting):
Did you do enough?
Did you become who you were supposed to become?
Did you finish strong?
What I’ve come to know is that life doesn’t require you to have it all neatly wrapped up before December 31st. Growth does not need a highlight reel and you don’t owe anyone a “strong finish” to be worthy of rest.
Read MoreYou weren’t born thinking life sucks.
You weren’t born with a negative attitude and outlook.
You weren’t born feeling resigned to life as it is.
It might seem like the majority of our human default setting is perpetual dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction with what-is, filled with an undertone that something is fundamentally wrong – with us, with others, and with the conditions of the world.
Read MoreThere’s a moment in every transformation when things start to shift.
Not because you pushed harder.
Not because you finally figured it all out.
But because you finally let go.
Letting go isn’t about giving up.
Read MoreStop Doing More. Start Being More.
Most people think if they do more, they’ll achieve more.
More hours. More effort. More strategies. More checklists. More discipline.
If your identity is wired to “over-effort”, then doing more just creates…more of the same.
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