Your Habits of Thought Are the Only Thing Standing in the Way of You and Your Goals
You're about one week in from making your New Year's Resolutions and setting fresh goals.
How's it going so far? Hanging in there? Doing awesome? Faltering on what you were so excited about one short week ago?
Why do you make resolutions, anyway?
Do you plan on not-following through?
Do you expect to follow-through or do you expect you won't?
Are you motivating yourself to do the thing you said you were going to do with negative consequences?
How do you feel about your resolutions and goals?
Do you believe you can follow-through, achieve them, own them, live them, drive them, spend them and kiss them?
What you believe and how you feel matters and the achievement of what you want hinges on it.
We can't talk about the achievement or lack-there-of, of your goals and resolutions without considering your beliefs and how you feel about them.
Goals make you focus. Goals give you something to move toward. They're sort of like knowing where you're headed when you take a trip.
When you set a goal, there's already energy flowing toward it. Every goal or resolution that you choose either comes from a place of "I don't like this - I'm going to change things by setting this goal", therefore, your cognizance of what you don't want and don't like; or, "I like where I'm at, and this new goal feels exciting" (or good in some way). In this case, it's inspired from what you do want.
Can you feel the difference between the two?
How the goal or the resolution feels to you when you think about it lets you know what side of the scale you're tipping more on. One is, you're tired of feeling this way, so you need to change things to feel better. The other is, you like the way that idea/goal/resolution feels so you're going for it.
In both cases you identify something as a means to feel how you want to feel once you accomplish it - as in, "Once I lose weight, I'll feel better about myself." "If I could only be in a relationship, I would feel lovable." "When this thing gets settled, or when this other thing clears up, or when I finally have enough money, or when I live in a different place, or when I'm looking at another face, or when that's not in my life anymore...I'll feel (fill in the blank)." Finally.
When you feel good, your expectation, and therefore your beliefs and your thoughts are pretty-well aligned with the outcome that you want.
When you feel impatient, doubtful, despair, anger, frustration, complacent, fearful...you're not any-time-soon going to have the results you want because when you feel like that, you're not aligned with the outcome that you want.
Which means, that your thoughts, your beliefs, and your expectations match more what you've got and what you've been living, and your past, than what you want.
It's sort-of like telling me that you want to take a trip. You've even planned the trip. You've got an itinerary and you know where you're going, but you keep saying to me, "But I'm home right now. I'm not on my trip yet." And I say to you, "Yes, I know, but you can look forward to your trip even if you're not yet on your trip. You know you're taking that trip. You've even paid for it. Why doubt you're going when it's such a done-deal? Or why bemoan that you're not on it yet, when it's coming up so soon?"
If you understand that the reason you set goals and make resolutions is primarily to flow energy - that most of the juice is in the idea of them because you want to feel a certain way -and oh yeah, because you want what you want. If you understand that it's to know first-hand your personal power in directing your thoughts and feeling it come into place before you ever see it. If you understand that it's to feel the accomplishment of it as further affirmation of your personal power to create your reality.
And if you understand that what you think and how you feel about your goals and resolutions is the thing that matters most in determining your movement toward achieving them, or your movement toward the same-ole'-same-ole' - you'll begin a new trend for yourself as you set goals and make resolutions anytime after this.
Some goals feel like they're achievable. Others, like winning a $700,000,000 lottery ticket this Saturday, not-so-much.
But what if you could adapt to the perspective that every goal you set and resolution you make is inevitable. It's a-given. It's a done-deal. It's a slam-dunk. You might not be living it yet, and your reality may look a lot different from what your goal is, but you don't ever have to feel doubt again.
It's doubt - not believing - that has you experiencing your lack of follow-through toward what you want.
You have the ability to feel how you want to feel (or like how you think your successful accomplishment of said-desire would feel) pre-manifestation.
It's just a matter of choosing thoughts that match the outcome that you now know is inevitable. Which means, you choose thoughts, or you think about, or you focus-on your goal in a way that feels good to you instead of in a way that takes score and criticizes where you are, or in ways that feel discouraging or doubtful.
If you knew that everything you will ever want is a sure-thing, would you have to reside in the old beliefs and thought patterns you've had? Or could you just get-on with the business of feeling good knowing that you're on your way to what's a done-deal?
Achieving goals isn't about holding yourself accountable to some action or to someone else.
Achieving goals is first about choosing thoughts that match and feel like the outcome you want.
Achieving goals is about tending to your mindset and how you feel first.
If you don't tend to that, you're skipping over the most important component or element that will determine the actions you're going to take and the results you're going to get.
If you've ever accomplished a goal or a desire, or stuck to a resolution, you had to feel it and believe it first, before it ever manifested into your experience.
If you've ever not-stuck to a resolution, accomplished that goal, or held to some action you said you were going to do its because you have habits of thought.
If you think thoughts that contradict what you say you want - there's your habit.
If you think it's only about action regardless of what you think and feel - there's your habit.
If you believe that your thoughts and the way you feel about your desire don't matter - there's your habit.
If you set an intention, make a resolution, make an affirmation or set a goal and you don't believe it, and you keep-on not believing it - there's your habit.
If you have a goal and you feel bad about where you are relative to it - there's your habit.
If you made a resolution and you're taking score about how little change has happened thus far, or you feel impatient - there's your habit.
If you said you were going to take some action and you didn't do it today and you beat yourself up over it - there's your habit.
If you make yourself accountable to other people and they question your sincerity because you didn't do the thing you said you would and you feel bad because they must be oh-so-right - there's your habit.
If you set an intention to feel great every day and you miss-the-mark almost daily and you make it mean that you must not deserve to feel good or that you must not be disciplined enough - there's your habit.
If you look back to all of the times that you've failed before and try to avoid failure again -there's your habit.
If you look back to all of the times when you had good intentions but didn't follow through - there's your habit.
These habits do stand in the way of what you say you want.
These habits stand in the way of what you want because everything that you think (if you think it enough), becomes a reality. If your thoughts contradict a reality you want, there's no-time-soon when your reality will shift to what you want.
These habits are habits of thinking and feeling; of using a filter to perceive; these are habits of thought and emotion responses that hold you in patterns of behavior.
You can't change a pattern of behavior or have a different outcome without changing the thoughts associated with the behavior first - or along the way to your desired change.
You might be able to change a behavior temporarily, but if you haven't adapted the thought and emotional pattern to match or to support the new behavior or outcome, your behavior will fall into your usual, practiced, and familiar habit.
You won't behave much differently from what you've been thinking and feeling. How you behave always matches how you think and feel.
So if you want to behave differently, if you want lasting outcomes instead of fleeting glimpses of what you want as you occasionally stumble upon them, you must get to the heart of all things and address how you think and feel.
The only way to move yourself toward your goal is by shifting how you think and feel about it. If you hold to your habits of thinking and feeling you'll find yourself with grand intentions, making great proclamations in a moment of clarity, and you'll also find yourself flailing about within a short-time of your said-proclamations and believing that this must be your fate.
You must practice new thoughts. You must apply different thoughts to get different outcomes. You must feel differently to allow more of what you want. You've heard the saying, "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of..." (I'll let you finish that sentence).
How do you think that thinking the same habit of thoughts and feeling your habitual way would ever get you different results?
Oh! You think that the action is enough to overcompensate, obliterate, overcome or cover-up how you think and feel. Right.
It's not only your action that creates. The action you take is always an extension of what you think and feel. Said in another way, "Your actions express or affirm how you feel." If you take an action that implies one thing but how you feel says another, the outcome is always going to match how you feel.
So take all of the action that you want in the direction of the accomplishment and fulfillment of your goals, desires, resolutions, proclamations, and declarations that you've made to yourself or to the world - just understand that as you're taking action, you also need to be molding your thoughts and how you feel about what you're moving toward - to equal or feel like how your inevitable outcome feels.
If you think it's not going to happen, you're not matching.
If you think it's not happening fast enough, you're not matching.
If you think you're going to fail, you're not matching.
All you've got to do is mold your thoughts like a sculptor molds his work to look more like his vision.
All you've got to do is tune yourself to how your new reality feels.
It's not about only asking, "What action can I take?" It's about primarily asking, "What thoughts can I think that feel more like my desire?", and acclimating, getting-used-to, becoming familiar with those thoughts. Just a little at a time - and from those new thought patterns, new behaviors and approaches have to be evoked.
So tell me...do you now have a different perspective to apply to those New Year's Resolutions and 2016 Goals?