"What are you making it mean?"
Sounds like a simple question. What I'm referring to are the meanings you link to experiences and events in your life that you use to define who you are or are not; who others are or are not; and what the world is or is not.
Meanings involve what you're capable or incapable of and what possibilities or improbabilities lie before you. Meanings interweave with your beliefs and expectations.
So how bound are you to those meanings?
When someone says something to you in that tone of voice - what do you make it mean about you, or about them? You might make it mean you did something wrong, they're an idiot, they're in a bad mood, or that you're responsible for how they feel.
When you get (or don't get) something you want - what do you make it mean? You might make it mean that it's your doing, or someone else's. Maybe it's just luck, random, coincidence or that this one-time or every time things go your way? Or maybe it's that things don't ever go your way (or rarely do) and that it's someone else's fault you didn't get what you want?Read More