You entered a contest.
You wrote a blog post.
You told someone how you feel.
You bought something.
You made a decision...
It felt good when you did it.
It felt good when you wrote it.
It felt good when you said it.
It felt good when you bought it.
It felt good when you made it.
But thennnnn....doubt started to creep in. Somehow, someway, it showed itself.
Read MoreWe categorize, pigeonhole and put things in their places.
We construct tiny boxes and fill them with things that fit into them. Even with love...
I love you...If.
I love you...When.
I love you...Because.
Do this - and I love and approve of you.
Which can also mean - I don't love you if, when or because.
Read More"What are you making it mean?"
Sounds like a simple question. What I'm referring to are the meanings you link to experiences and events in your life that you use to define who you are or are not; who others are or are not; and what the world is or is not.
Meanings involve what you're capable or incapable of and what possibilities or improbabilities lie before you. Meanings interweave with your beliefs and expectations.
So how bound are you to those meanings?
When someone says something to you in that tone of voice - what do you make it mean about you, or about them? You might make it mean you did something wrong, they're an idiot, they're in a bad mood, or that you're responsible for how they feel.
When you get (or don't get) something you want - what do you make it mean? You might make it mean that it's your doing, or someone else's. Maybe it's just luck, random, coincidence or that this one-time or every time things go your way? Or maybe it's that things don't ever go your way (or rarely do) and that it's someone else's fault you didn't get what you want?
Read MoreAdmit it - don't you sometimes (maybe often) think that if everyone would change a little and be more to your liking, it would be so much better for you? A little tweak here another tweak there; stop doing this and start doing that.
You know - that annoying thing your mother does. You really love her, but...
And your sister - if she'd be more responsive...she's such a flake.
Your friend - if he would just like your FB and Instagram posts. You really like him but he's kind of a dick for that.
Your significant other - if she'd be more responsible with her time (that would be nice).
Your teenage daughter - if she were less moody (that would be really nice).
Your co-workers - if they weren't so negative (your day at work would be so much better).
Wouldn't your world be so much shinier and full of rainbows if everyone was the version of what you wanted them to be? You know, more like your dog - more loveable, sweeter, cooperative and always eager to please you? Like...all the time!
Read MoreYour thoughts are like seeds. Every time you think them, it's like adding fertilizer to them.
Plant a seed, it grows.
Think a thought longer, you're fertilizing it and it's growing even more.
Want an apple tree? Plant an apple seed.
Want tomatoes? Plant tomato seeds.
Want asparagus?
...You get the picture.
If you want asparagus but plant corn, you're going to get corn.
Read MoreThis will be my last post for 2016. As I thought about what to write - coupled with my desire to be of value and to provide you with ways to live a good-feeling life - I decided to offer you some ways to start intending and implementing now, ways to align with the true essence of who-you-are.
When you align with your true essence, it's like you - getting out-of-the-way.
It's like you - letting the door(s) open for you.
It's like you - laying on an inner-tube in the water and letting it float you.
When you make it harder than it needs to be, when you struggle, justify, try to prove, argue for your limitations, look for the worst, look for problems, let things bother you, feel like you don't deserve it, compare yourself to others or get into a habit of thinking about things that don't feel good - that's like you shading yourself from the good that's already there - or closing the door to the opportunities that are lined-up for you.
I want you to live a good life - that means feeling good and having the things and the experiences that you want.
Alignment is key to all of it and here are some ways to promote that:
Read MoreDeath touches us all.
None of us can be born without experiencing what we call death.
Not one of us will escape it.
The reality of it is provided for us within our family, friends, neighbors and strangers worldwide. Often, the fear and sense of loss is perpetuated amongst us with the perspective that once we're dead, we are - for the most part - gone.
With the very recent transition of my mother-in-law, (lovingly called Gram), I wanted to pause and contemplate the idea of death, life and the thereafter once again.
Read MoreAre you tired of being broke?
Tired of being in a relationship that's more trouble than it's worth?
Tired of things being blown out of proportion?
Tired of working at a mediocre meaningless job that you don't like?
Tired of the struggle?
Tired of feeling like you're always fixing "broken" things about yourself and others?
Tired of feeling frustrated, rejected, told what to do?
Good. Because being tired of something means you're just about ready to change your perspective.
Read MoreThe only thing you can do is to soothe yourself.
The only thing you can do is to find a way to feel better about it.
The only thing you can do in this moment is reach for a different and better-feeling perspective.
Why would you ever bother to find a way to feel better about something that doesn't seem like there's anything to feel good about?
Because, "Why would you keep holding on to a perspective that doesn't feel good to you and creates fear or a sense of disempowerment within you?"
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