7 Ways to Get Your Happy On

Sometimes, it feels like you've got no control over how you feel. It's like something outside of you has gotten a hold of your brain, your thoughts and your attention, thereby giving you the impression that how you feel has nothing to do with you and everything to do with whatever's gotten a grip on your brain. You wish you could be happy, but you've got all kinds of things to be unhappy about that you can't (but wish you could) control.

If you want to move yourself closer to happy and feel more in control of your emotions, here are a few things you can do:

1) Let How You Feel Be

Don't try to fix it or change it. Don't try to analyze it or solve it. Don't try to make it different. Don't try to justify, defend or explain it. Doing so will only intensify how you're feeling and have you feeling like your thoughts are more out of your control. Let it be for awhile and acknowledge that you don't have to feel like this forever; that this feeling doesn't have to last endlessly. You're feeling the way you are because of your perspective about the thing that has you upset. While the condition may be unchangeable at the moment, your perspective is. But still...let it be for now. Ignoring how you feel in the sense of covering-up how you feel is not helpful, but distracting yourself from what seems to have you by the tail and making you feel unhappy, is. If you weren't focused on the thing that's got you feeling something other-than happy, you'd be happy. Think about that.

Ingredients for life, Following Your Path, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerMarch 25, 2016Comment

20 Things You Can Learn from a Toddler about Creating Your Reality

Sometimes (often), our teachers are not the older and wiser ones - they're the little ones eating lollipops and wearing velcro shoes.

1) Be flexible.

We're not talking about yoga here.

2) Take the road less traveled.

You never know what you might find.

3) Do what you want anyway.

You know you really want to.

4) Don't take anyone's opinion of you seriously.

It's all bullsh*t anyway.

5) Do it for the fun of it.

'Cuz that's why you're here. Why would you ever do it for any other reason?

Ingredients for life, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerMarch 11, 2016Comment

In Pursuit of Perfection?

There's this thing that we do...its called the need for perfection.

We refrain from putting up a website until we have all the copy, the photos and the impeccable message we want to convey, just so.

We refrain from trying something new or different because we might stink at it.

We don't write because our writing may not be as good as it can be. Or, it may actually suck.

We reach for the outcomes we want and want them now; if they don't come really-fast-soon, we assume we're doing something wrong.

We look at our bank account, our status, our likes, our accomplishments, our accolades, and our placement demeaning our sense of worth and value as we draw conclusions about our current position.

We look at our partner or the wanta-be-potential partner and search for faults and evidence of imperfection - needing him or her to be only-a-little, or quite-a-lot different - right now.

We judge, categorize, pigeon-hole, criticize, and evaluate based on some illusion of perfection.

Following Your Path, Ingredients for life, FreedomChristine MeyerMarch 4, 2016Comment

Ask a Different Question. It's Important.

Why are questions important?

Because the questions you ask make you more aware of the answers. If you don't ask a question, the answer might be smack-dab-in-your-face and you wouldn't know it, so asking a question makes you more aware of the answers that are there.

If I said to you, “It’s a cat” and you hadn’t asked me a question similar to, “What kind of animal is that?”, you’d have no idea what I was talking about and you'd look at me like I was a crazy lady. Awkwaaaaard.

If you're asking questions and not liking the answers, maybe it's time to have a look-see at the questions and what the questions are highlighting. If your questions are more pointed at the problems you don't want vs. the solutions you do want, the answers you continue to attract will be more of a match to the problems rather than the solutions.

Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerFebruary 26, 2016 Comments

Who Moved Your Potatoes and Where Did They Go?

There's something you want.

You don't have it yet. That's probably why you still want it.

It's taking soooo long.

"Where is it, where is it, where is it?", you ask.

"It's missing", you say. "I don't know where it is. I don't know how to find it. I don' t know how to get it. I don't know how to make it happen."

Have you ever gone looking for something that was missing (let's say in this case, potatoes) that you couldn't find and soon after you gave up looking for the missing potatoes, there they were?

Have you ever wanted something that you didn't have and once you decided to think of something else instead of the thing you didn't have - the thing you wanted that you formerly didn't have - is now yours?

Ingredients for life, Following Your Path, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerFebruary 19, 2016Comment

So You Think You Want Control?

You want a way to control what's going on around you so that it doesn't feel so random and unpredictable.

You want...predictability.

You want consistency from the one you're with.

You want to know what's going to happen in a future that hasn't happened yet.

You want...certainty.

Not in a boring kind-of-way that means you have to plan every last-thing right down to the details of what you're going to eat for lunch next Tuesday at 11:53:42 am, ET. Nawwww...not in that way. ;)

But you do want to be prepared. You want to know. You want a sense of control over your life.

Maybe you feel it's all out-of-control.

Maybe controlling as many and as much as you can would make you feel better.

Outlook on Life, BeliefsChristine MeyerFebruary 12, 2016Comment

That Cowboy Hat Makes Me Look Fat

Several years ago while in a Western Gear store in Texas, I heard a girl over-yonder say, "This cowboy hat makes me look fat."

I thought, "Well, there you have it. If you think it, it shall be it." That girl was far, far, far from anything you would call fat, heavy or over-weight.

But she believed it.

How you perceive your world is everything.

How you feel about how you're perceiving is everything.

What you believe forms your perceptions.

Outlook on Life, BeliefsChristine MeyerFebruary 5, 2016Comment

Power to the Passion...or Not?

Passion is ballyhooed everywhere. If you open a book, Twitter, FB, Instragram or even your grandma's favorite magazine publication - someone is likely talking about passion and hashtagging it (and I probably will too).

There are 7 + 3 steps to finding your passion and 11 more to follow it, sometimes with a concealed or blatant message of, "A life lived without passion is not worth living" (or something of that sort).

So...what about passion?

Do *you* have it?

Do you feel it?

Do you have fleeting glimpses of it and get a sense of what it is when you search Google images?

Do you want it?

Do you think you should have it?

Ingredients for lifeChristine MeyerJanuary 29, 2016PassionComment