Posts in Ingredients for life
Feeling Trumped?

The only thing you can do is to soothe yourself.

The only thing you can do is to find a way to feel better about it.

The only thing you can do in this moment is reach for a different and better-feeling perspective.

Why would you ever bother to find a way to feel better about something that doesn't seem like there's anything to feel good about?  

Because, "Why would you keep holding on to a perspective that doesn't feel good to you and creates fear or a sense of disempowerment within you?"  

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Warning: This May Cause a Heightened Sense of Self-Empowerment

There are a lot of people on this planet who believe that when something good happens it's luck, coincidence or good karma and when something they perceive as "bad" happening, it's the planets, bad luck, bad juju, or bad karma descending upon them as punishment for something wrong that they've done.  

If that's you, this is likely where you'll want to stop reading this. I'm happy you believe in something that makes sense to you.

If you are one who believes (or at least wants to believe) that you create your reality and that everything that happens in your experience is because of what you've been thinking and feeling (even if it's been oblivious on your part) then read on.  It means that you want creative control of your own experience.

Listed below are some guidelines to help you with that.

Warning:  This may cause a heightened sense of self-empowerment.  

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Things Are Always Working Out for You

Things don't always go according to your plan.

Sometimes it seems like life comes in and f*cks things up.

There are plenty of reasons for you to feel disappointed.

There are plenty of reasons you can find to beat yourself up.

There are plenty of reasons you can find that affirm that things are going wrong.

And you'd be justified for all of it.  

You thought you'd be much "farther along" than you find yourself to be at this age or stage in life,

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Everything Is Never As It Seems

Perspective is everything.  

It’s the difference between feeling good and feeling bad.  

Perspective can make you trust or doubt.  

Perspective can make you expect good things to unfold for you, or it can make you expect things to go wrong.  

Perspective can make you feel like a failure, or it can make you feel good, worthy and perfect just the way you are.  

Perspective can re-write your past into one that was just as it should have been and create your future into one that's full of joy, meaning, and richness.  

So when I say “Everything is never as it seems”, I mean that your perspective in the moment determines your interpretation of your reality.  The same state or condition can be interpreted as one that's benefiting you or one that's to your detriment; but the condition or situation is the same.  

It’s your interpretation of it that determines the meaning and the outcome.  


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11 Ways To Ignite More Positive Thoughts

Just as you can go far and wide online, your mind also has the ability to go to all sorts of places. 

The difference is, you often manage the places you go online with more intention than you do your thoughts. 

Sometimes you let your thoughts go in all sorts of directions for no other reason than it’s what you always do.  It's a habit.  

The more you think about anything, the easier it gets to keep thinking about it in the same ole', same ole' way.  

Your thoughts attract not only what you're thinking about but also more thoughts similar to the ones you're thinking.  

Thank you, Law of Attraction.  

So if you're thinking about something (which makes it easier to think more thoughts like it) how do you get out of the loop of similar thoughts if you don't like the thoughts you're thinking?  (was that a brain-twister of a sentence, or what?)

One way is to make a decision that you’re going to think only if what you're thinking about feels good.  Any subject that doesn’t feel good when you're broaching it, you don't think about. (ie...politics anyone???).  

Another approach is to feel good and then think.  When you feel good, you're more likely to think about stuff in a way that matches-up with the good-feeling you have.  If you feel good and stumble upon a thought that doesn't feel good, for the time being, get off the subject. Getting off the subject when it doesn't feel good is like jumping off the train before it crashes. That's a good thing.  

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This F*ck It List Will Help You With Your Bucket List

You may have one of those lists full of things that you want to be, do, lick, have, sniff, squeeze, see, play-with, drive, live-in, and possess that you've thrown into a bucket.  

Said list represents things you want to experience before you stop breathing for good.

I'm all for a good Bucket List if that fancies your tickle.  I want you to do all of the things that your heart desires in this lifetime and beyond, so I've created a F*ck It List that just may help you to fulfill that Bucket List.  

1) F*ck working so hard at changing anyone's opinion of you.

People (you included) can only perceive through their own lens.  When you try to convince anyone about anything about you, you've allowed their perspective of you to hook you in to needing to convince them.  

You're not responsible for making someone else's experience of you be different than what they expect.  

While they may hold an opinion of you that's different from what you'd like it to be, let them have it.  You don't have to push against the opinions of others.  You'll be way happier if you don't.  


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Nothing Changes If You Keep Telling the Same Stories

You tell stories all day long…about everything. 

Stories include the meanings you attach, the conclusions you make, the assumptions you assume, the feelings you have and the feelings (and thoughts) you think someone else has.  

Stories are often based on the beliefs that you have. 

Stories are the things you think and talk about.  

The stories that you tell can include and are not limited to:

The government is…(doing the best that it can with what it’s got, trying to control us, sucks and is out to ruin this country).

My kids are… (cooperative, lovely, monsters, downright annoying).

I am...(smart, insightful, good at, bad at, stupid, not good enough).

He/she/they are...(interesting, fun, gorgeous, clever, not-like-me, odd, mean, ignorant a-hole).

My job is…(awesome, the best ever, I hate it I wish I never had to come back here again).

My childhood was…(happy, playful, downright shitty).

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You Can't Google That Shit

Imagine….the very best personal assistant completing every one of your requests and fulfilling all of your desires.  

This assistant of yours knows Everything you’ve ever wanted and has the networks, connections, resources, means, and the know-how to bring it all together.  

Your assistant is also aware of how all of the pieces fit together, exactly where you need to go, who you need to talk to, and what needs to be combined for you to have everything you dream of having to live the life that you want for yourself. 

This assistant is equipped with the best memory; receiving and remembering every request you’ve made and has intimate knowledge of everyone of your preferences and nuances since the day you were born (and before) and has access to everything there is to be known.  (It's way better than Google). 

Your assistant is the most efficient, reliable, resourceful, connected assistant you could ever envision. There’s nothing this assistant can’t do. 

Now picture your cell phone.  Imagine that to communicate with you, your assistant texts you every minute of every day, providing you with information about where to go, who to talk to, what to do, what to think about, what you need to know and what to say. 

Sucks for you if your phone is off.  

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