Posts in Outlook on Life
You Can't Google That Shit

Imagine….the very best personal assistant completing every one of your requests and fulfilling all of your desires.  

This assistant of yours knows Everything you’ve ever wanted and has the networks, connections, resources, means, and the know-how to bring it all together.  

Your assistant is also aware of how all of the pieces fit together, exactly where you need to go, who you need to talk to, and what needs to be combined for you to have everything you dream of having to live the life that you want for yourself. 

This assistant is equipped with the best memory; receiving and remembering every request you’ve made and has intimate knowledge of everyone of your preferences and nuances since the day you were born (and before) and has access to everything there is to be known.  (It's way better than Google). 

Your assistant is the most efficient, reliable, resourceful, connected assistant you could ever envision. There’s nothing this assistant can’t do. 

Now picture your cell phone.  Imagine that to communicate with you, your assistant texts you every minute of every day, providing you with information about where to go, who to talk to, what to do, what to think about, what you need to know and what to say. 

Sucks for you if your phone is off.  

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Happiness Is Like...

Happiness is like peeing your pants.  Everyone can see it, but only you can feel its warmth. 

The point is, only you can feel what you’re feeling; no one else can.  And only you create the feeling for yourself; no else does it for you.

Others can observe your manifestations, but only you know how it feels to you

How you feel is at the heart of any creation.  

How you feel (or how you want to feel) is why you want all things that you want.  

And also why you don’t want the things you don’t want.  

You want what you want because you’ve attached (or associated with it) a feeling that you believe you'll get you as a result of having it.  ie., "If I have this, or if this happens, I'll feel like (fill in the blank)."  

So when you think about what you want, try identifying how you think you would feel if you were living it, having it, driving it, or kissing it.  

As in - right now having the experience of it.   

Describe it in emotional terms.  "It feels free and fun.  It feels easy.  I feel successful.  Successful feels prosperous.  Success feels like choices and possibilities. Choices and possibilities feel exciting and expansive.  I feel proud.  I feel zealous. I feel excited."  

Go on...keep delving into how it feels.  There's no right or wrong way to do this. Just go for the feeling of it.   

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There's No Peace In Struggle

Seven years ago, when the process of delivering our daughter Franki began, I befriended nature and went with the evolution of it.

As the hours passed with little or no progress, I braced myself forcefully against the physical sensations (aka excruciating pain) and the more I resisted what-was, the worse it seemed.

I thought, "This business of having natural childbirth is not for me" (which is likely why I ended up in the hospital having an emergency C-section.  But that's another story).  

Somewhere along this journey of childbirth, I became aware that no matter how much I tensed against it, THIS WAS HAPPENING.  The only thing I could attempt to do was to make peace with the process of the inevitable.  

This baby was coming no matter how I approached it.   

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You...

I stand among you beautiful human souls,

You...of all shapes, sizes, colors and backgrounds.

And I love you. 

Instantly.

I want nothing from you.

You...your presence is enough.

And I love you.

All I see...is your beauty. 

I bask.

And I love you.

I look into your eyes, into the depths of your soul.

It’s not demons that I see.

Only magnificence.

You...the raw truth.

And I love you.

What you perceive as flaws, shames or defeat,

Are what make you beautiful – beauty marks and power lines.

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WTF?

You flip one off to someone because they cut you off in traffic...WTF?

Your kid is doing exActly what you asked him not-to-do...WTF?

You didn't get the job you were sure you’d get…WTF?

Your clients are asking you to discount your rates...WTF?

Your sales are down and you've got no money in the bank...WTF?

You end up in the hospital when you thought you were doing so well...WTF?

Your boyfriend broke up with you when you thought you were on-track to get married...WTF?

You're 40, single and still haven't met the person you want to partner with...WTF?

WTF?

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The Power of Dancing Naked and Letting Go

I danced naked on the sidewalk.  Ran circles around my naked daughter, Franki.    

Let’s back up a little….

We’d just finished swimming and had come inside to dry off.  I stripped my bathing suit, wrapping a towel around me.  Franki, bottoms off, top on, said she was cold, so I suggested she take her wet top off and wrap a towel around her as I had. 

As we walked toward our front porch to hang our suits up to dry, she threw her towel and exclaimed, “Let’s have a naked dance party”!!

I laughed and answered, “Sure, go ahead”!  (As in, "You can if you want to, but I'm not doing that.")

Spontaneous dance parties aren't unheard of around here but me dancing naked is.  

This gal was determined to get that towel off of me and get me dancing.   

“Come on, mama...let’s do it!!!!”, she excitedly exclaimed.  

No neighbors within sight.  No sound of vehicles coming up our long gravel driveway; six-foot-high ornamental grasses surrounding me - offering cover, and yet, I hesitated as my eyes darted left, then right and off into the distance.  

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Can You Dare?

Many of us forego good for great; awesome for roarsome; magnificent for phenomenal; outstanding for astonishing.

When I was thinking about leaving my first husband, I feared that I was being stupid.  I doubted that I could do it and I didn't know if I should.  I didn't know where I was going, let alone the steps to take toward what I wanted.  I feared I was leaving a man and a relationship that were really great and would possibly never realize the more that I was reaching for. 

I had stability and a thriving business with my husband.  We had an exquisite home that was often the hub of gatherings for our friends and family.  We traveled frequently and money was ours to spend freely.  We got along, had fun together and respected each other; I loved this man.

So why would I want to leave when I had it so good?  It didn't make sense to me.

There was nothing fundamentally wrong with our relationship and nothing that I could say was a "deal breaker".  

There was nothing I can say that I needed to run away from. 

But I did feel a sense that I wanted to run toward something more. 

Did I dare want more than what I had? (I made myself wrong for wanting more for a long time).

Did I dare go from really good to roarsome?

Was this even possible???

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You Can Always Tell A Different Story

We all like to tell stories; the stories of our lives... It's how we relate to one another, bond and make forever friends, isn't it?

We embellish them here, flower them up there, tell the truth-as-it-is for the sake of accurate and actual accounts.  We provide the sequence of unfolding events along the way, dragging up all the good, the bad and the ugly parts that got us to where we are and made us the person that we are now.  

While it may make for a good story, what you think and talk about and how you feel about it - becomes.  

You're always creating your now (because it's now and you're having the experience of it now as you're telling it) and you're also pre-paving a future reality.  

So if you're going to recount events (tell stories) about your past, present or future, make light of the bad and the ugly - or leave it out altogether.  

You don't have to emphasize the struggle to affirm your worthiness.

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