I'll be happy when I lose this extra 5, 10 15 or more lbs.
I'll be happy when my body feels better.
I'll be happy when my hair is longer.
I'll be happy when I look different than I do.
I'll be happy when I get the recognition I deserve.
I'll be happy when I get a better job.
I'll be happy when my kid gets through this phase.
I'll be happy when I get a divorce.
I'll be happy when I have a boyfriend/girlfriend or love of my life.
Read MoreOthers can observe your manifestations, but only you know how it feels to you.
How you feel (or how you want to feel) is why you want all things that you want.
And also why you don’t want the things you don’t want.
You want what you want because you’ve attached (or associated with it) a feeling that you believe you'll get you as a result of having it. ie., "If I have this, or if this happens, I'll feel like (fill in the blank)."
So when you think about what you want, try identifying how you think you would feel if you were living it, having it, driving it, or kissing it.
As in - right now having the experience of it.
Describe it in emotional terms. "It feels free and fun. It feels easy. I feel successful. Successful feels prosperous. Success feels like choices and possibilities. Choices and possibilities feel exciting and expansive. I feel proud. I feel zealous. I feel excited."
Go on...keep delving into how it feels. There's no right or wrong way to do this. Just go for the feeling of it.
Read MoreNo matter who you are, you’re “in relationship” with someone.
That can be someone you're living with, in a romantic relationship with, a friend, a relative, an employee, a boss, co-worker, a child or even your dog. It can also be the people you mingle with in traffic, at the store, restaurant, or bar.
And certainly yourself.
The way to good relationships is not by pointing out faults or by putting attention on the things that bother you. Neither is a good relationship cultivated by needing the person you’re in relationship with to change or to be different than they are.
What you focus on expands and what you think about becomes your reality whether you like it or not.
Seven years ago, when the process of delivering our daughter Franki began, I befriended nature and went with the evolution of it.
As the hours passed with little or no progress, I braced myself forcefully against the physical sensations (aka excruciating pain) and the more I resisted what-was, the worse it seemed.
I thought, "This business of having natural childbirth is not for me" (which is likely why I ended up in the hospital having an emergency C-section. But that's another story).
Somewhere along this journey of childbirth, I became aware that no matter how much I tensed against it, THIS WAS HAPPENING. The only thing I could attempt to do was to make peace with the process of the inevitable.
This baby was coming no matter how I approached it.
Read More“Can you bring me my milk”? my daughter Franki asks as I’m doing dinner prep.
I respond with, “Soon honey”.
What feels like seconds later, Franki checks in again with, “Can you please bring me my milk”? (She thinks that saying please will speed-up the process).
Again, I reply with, “Soon honey”.
“But I said, “please”, Franki responded.
“I heard you the first time, luv”, I reply.
Now imagine that you’re the one repeatedly asking the question, “Can you bring me (fill-in-the-blank-for-that-thing-you-want)”, while the Universe is the one responding with, “I heard you the first time, luv”.
When you "ask" for anything - whether you speak it out-loud, mumble it under your breath, write it down, or have an experience that evokes a desire within you - the Universe says, “Yes! The milk is on it's way. Your request has been heard and is being fulfilled."
The Universe doesn’t care if you say please.
Read MoreI stand among you beautiful human souls,
You...of all shapes, sizes, colors and backgrounds.
And I love you.
Instantly.
I want nothing from you.
You...your presence is enough.
And I love you.
All I see...is your beauty.
I bask.
And I love you.
I look into your eyes, into the depths of your soul.
It’s not demons that I see.
Only magnificence.
You...the raw truth.
And I love you.
What you perceive as flaws, shames or defeat,
Are what make you beautiful – beauty marks and power lines.
Read MoreWhat a mom believes is love for her child is ridiculous over- indulgence to you.
What you think is easy and manageable may be hard and unmanageable to someone else.
What your normal is, is extremely weird to another.
What you believe to be an appropriate and timely way to respond to emails is a distraction and splitting of focus to another.
What you think is organized is someone else’s version of chaos.
What scatter-brained is to you may be creativity to another.
What over-ripe banana is to you may be perfectly sweet and delicious to someone else.
What you consider ho-hum boring and downright uninspiring could be stimulating and fascinating to another.
What you consider to be late and inconsiderate may be a cultural norm and respectful for someone else.
What you perceive as forward and pushy may be an expression of appreciation to another.
What is a necessity for you may be overindulgence to someone else.
What someone else describes as luxury may be pickings and slim-seconds to you.
What someone else describes as real accomplishment and productivity may be one hour’s worth of focus in your world.
What someone else believes to be the most beautiful place on the planet, is hell-on-water to you.
What's old and wrinkled to someone else may be beauty and power combined to you.
In front of me, my husband and daughter, and behind me someone else is following - all of us on our way to the same destination. I’m eager, excited, content, and I’m enjoying this motorcade very much.
Upon our arrival, my perspective is intact. This was fun! As we all got out of our respective vehicles, the person who’d been following us exclaimed, “That drive was horrendous!”
Same drive. Same flow of traffic. Same road. Same scenery. Same houses.
Very different perceived realities.
Read MoreThe grass will be greener when...
You have enough money to buy beyond what you need - and then the grass will be even greener when you can buy what you really want.
You can do only what you want, not what you have to.
You're at the body weight that you've always wanted to be.
You can take that trip of a lifetime. More than once.
You can quit your day-job and hang out at the beach. Forever.
Your house, taxes, paperwork and closets are in-order.
You have the place, the space and the landscape that you want.
Your business is running smoothly, you've built your list, and you've got more followers than bees are on-to honey.
You get your degree, start your dream business, finish that project, the people in your life stop annoying you and your dog stops barking at things you can't see or hear.
Your kid cleans up his room, you find the guy you want to marry, or the gal loves you back the way you love her.
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