How Do You Like Me Now?

No matter who you are, you’re “in relationship” with someone.

That can be someone you're living with, in a romantic relationship with, a friend, a relative, an employee, a boss, co-worker, a child or even your dog. It can also be the people you mingle with in traffic, at the store, restaurant, or bar.

And certainly yourself.

The way to good relationships is not by pointing out faults or by putting attention on the things that bother you. Neither is a good relationship cultivated by needing the person you’re in relationship with to change or to be different than they are.

What you focus on expands and what you think about becomes your reality whether you like it or not.

If you want things to be different, it’s up to you to focus differently.

Beliefs, Relationships, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerAugust 26, 2016Comment

Ask a Different Question. It's Important.

Why are questions important?

Because the questions you ask make you more aware of the answers. If you don't ask a question, the answer might be smack-dab-in-your-face and you wouldn't know it, so asking a question makes you more aware of the answers that are there.

If I said to you, “It’s a cat” and you hadn’t asked me a question similar to, “What kind of animal is that?”, you’d have no idea what I was talking about and you'd look at me like I was a crazy lady. Awkwaaaaard.

If you're asking questions and not liking the answers, maybe it's time to have a look-see at the questions and what the questions are highlighting. If your questions are more pointed at the problems you don't want vs. the solutions you do want, the answers you continue to attract will be more of a match to the problems rather than the solutions.

Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerFebruary 26, 2016 Comments

Can You Fake It Till You Make It?

Sometimes, our daughter will get this look on her face and she’ll act as if she’s really mad about something. She would convince any movie director that she’s really mad - but she's not. She’s playing a role and acting it out; she's not feeling it - she's pretending to feel something she's not.

Do you ever fake how you feel? Like feeling happy when you're not?

Do you ever pretend to feel something you're not? Like feeling abundant when you feel utterly broke?

Do you ever pretend to feel confident when you feel insecure?

Do you use the words that sound positive to try to cover up how you feel?

How often do you fake it for the sake of – looking good, not looking bad, hiding, ease, impressing someone - faking how you feel mostly because of the way it would look to someone else or because that's what you think you're supposed to do?

Goals, Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerJanuary 15, 2016Comment

One Month of Gratitude...Now What?

November's over and done-with. You did the gratitude thing, declaring your daily appreciation on the FacePlace (FB), and maybe you felt more appreciation than you've felt all year.

psst...it wasn't because of the month of November, it's because you put your attention on ways to appreciate the things that are a part of your daily life.

One month of doing that gratitude stuff is fantastic and all fine and lovely...

What about the other 11 months of the year?

Where do you think you're at?

Do you think that you mostly appreciate?

Or mostly don't?

How do you cultivate an attitude of appreciation?

Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerDecember 4, 2015Comment

When Things Aren't Going Your Way...

Good. For. You.

You read that right.

Good. For. You.

When you're not getting what you want, when it's not going your way or when you're in the middle of a sh*t-storm that you're blaming yourself or anyone else within sight for...

It's ok. It really is ok.

Whatever is manifesting in your life is evidence of how you were already feeling, so what's playing out - no matter how "out of the blue" it seems - is valuable information.

It's not reason to beat yourself up; it's not reason to believe you're not good, smart, enlightened, deserving, special, or not-enough of anything.

It's not a testimonial to your un-worthiness.

It's just...validation. Maybe not the kind you would say you want, but still - validation.

Outlook on Life, Self-AwarenessChristine MeyerNovember 20, 2015Comment

Is Your Response to Life A Habit?

Your girlfriend doesn’t call you, and you feel rejected.

You feel disrespected every time your spouse leaves the toilet seat up.

You’re irritated when your kid doesn’t clean up her room.

You feel judged when “that person” speaks to you in that tone of voice.

You feel misunderstood because your dad still doesn’t understand you.

You feel overwhelmed because emails keep filling your inbox.

You feel powerless when you think the government isn’t doing its job the way you think it should.

You’re peeved because your significant other leaves her shoes in your way - Every. Single. Time.

You’re annoyed at the incompetent waiter because…well, why not be?

It’s Monday – you feel slightly depressed.

Self-Awareness, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerNovember 13, 2015Comment

Live and Let Live

What a mom believes is love for her child is ridiculous over-indulgence to you.

What you think is easy and manageable may be hard and unmanageable to someone else.

What you believe to be an appropriate and timely way to respond to emails is a distraction and splitting of focus to another.

What you think is organized is someone else’s version of chaos.

What scatter-brained is to you may be creativity to another.

What over-ripe banana is to you may be perfectly sweet and delicious to someone else.

What you consider ho-hum boring and downright uninspiring could be stimulating and fantastically awesome to another.

Self-Awareness, Relationships, Outlook on LifeChristine MeyerNovember 6, 2015 Comments

Are You Caring What Other People Think of You?

Self-Awareness, Freedom, Following Your PathChristine MeyerOctober 23, 2015Comment

Playing Your Position in the Game of Life - Part Deux

I started this post last week and it got so long, that I divided it into two parts.

If you missed the first segment, here's the link:

http://www.christinemeyercoaching.com/blog/2015/9/30/playing-your-position-in-the-game-of-life

As discussed in the first post, sometimes you can feel like you're in the zone of the game and other times, you can feel like you're tangled in something that seems more like a full-on wrestling ready-to-take-you-down match.

Whichever game you're playing, you have much more control over your position than you may think.

Here are more approaches for you to consider:

Self-Awareness, Outlook on Life, Following Your PathChristine MeyerOctober 16, 2015Comment