Are you tired of being broke?
Tired of being in a relationship that's more trouble than it's worth?
Tired of things being blown out of proportion?
Tired of working at a mediocre meaningless job that you don't like?
Tired of the struggle?
Tired of feeling like you're always fixing "broken" things about yourself and others?
Tired of feeling frustrated, rejected, told what to do?
Good. Because being tired of something means you're just about ready to change your perspective.
Read MoreThe only thing you can do is to soothe yourself.
The only thing you can do is to find a way to feel better about it.
The only thing you can do in this moment is reach for a different and better-feeling perspective.
Why would you ever bother to find a way to feel better about something that doesn't seem like there's anything to feel good about?
Because, "Why would you keep holding on to a perspective that doesn't feel good to you and creates fear or a sense of disempowerment within you?"
Read MoreThings don't always go according to your plan.
Sometimes it seems like life comes in and f*cks things up.
There are plenty of reasons for you to feel disappointed.
There are plenty of reasons you can find to beat yourself up.
There are plenty of reasons you can find that affirm that things are going wrong.
And you'd be justified for all of it.
You thought you'd be much "farther along" than you find yourself to be at this age or stage in life,
Read MoreI'll be happy when I lose this extra 5, 10 15 or more lbs.
I'll be happy when my body feels better.
I'll be happy when my hair is longer.
I'll be happy when I look different than I do.
I'll be happy when I get the recognition I deserve.
I'll be happy when I get a better job.
I'll be happy when my kid gets through this phase.
I'll be happy when I get a divorce.
I'll be happy when I have a boyfriend/girlfriend or love of my life.
Read MorePerspective is everything.
It’s the difference between feeling good and feeling bad.
Perspective can make you trust or doubt.
Perspective can make you expect good things to unfold for you, or it can make you expect things to go wrong.
Perspective can make you feel like a failure, or it can make you feel good, worthy and perfect just the way you are.
Perspective can re-write your past into one that was just as it should have been and create your future into one that's full of joy, meaning, and richness.
So when I say “Everything is never as it seems”, I mean that your perspective in the moment determines your interpretation of your reality. The same state or condition can be interpreted as one that's benefiting you or one that's to your detriment; but the condition or situation is the same.
It’s your interpretation of it that determines the meaning and the outcome.
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Just as you can go far and wide online, your mind also has the ability to go to all sorts of places.
Sometimes you let your thoughts go in all sorts of directions for no other reason than it’s what you always do. It's a habit.
The more you think about anything, the easier it gets to keep thinking about it in the same ole', same ole' way.
Your thoughts attract not only what you're thinking about but also more thoughts similar to the ones you're thinking.
Thank you, Law of Attraction.
So if you're thinking about something (which makes it easier to think more thoughts like it) how do you get out of the loop of similar thoughts if you don't like the thoughts you're thinking? (was that a brain-twister of a sentence, or what?)
One way is to make a decision that you’re going to think only if what you're thinking about feels good. Any subject that doesn’t feel good when you're broaching it, you don't think about. (ie...politics anyone???).
Another approach is to feel good and then think. When you feel good, you're more likely to think about stuff in a way that matches-up with the good-feeling you have. If you feel good and stumble upon a thought that doesn't feel good, for the time being, get off the subject. Getting off the subject when it doesn't feel good is like jumping off the train before it crashes. That's a good thing.
Read MoreYou may have one of those lists full of things that you want to be, do, lick, have, sniff, squeeze, see, play-with, drive, live-in, and possess that you've thrown into a bucket.
Said list represents things you want to experience before you stop breathing for good.
I'm all for a good Bucket List if that fancies your tickle. I want you to do all of the things that your heart desires in this lifetime and beyond, so I've created a F*ck It List that just may help you to fulfill that Bucket List.
1) F*ck working so hard at changing anyone's opinion of you.
People (you included) can only perceive through their own lens. When you try to convince anyone about anything about you, you've allowed their perspective of you to hook you in to needing to convince them.
You're not responsible for making someone else's experience of you be different than what they expect.
While they may hold an opinion of you that's different from what you'd like it to be, let them have it. You don't have to push against the opinions of others. You'll be way happier if you don't.
You tell stories all day long…about everything.
Stories include the meanings you attach, the conclusions you make, the assumptions you assume, the feelings you have and the feelings (and thoughts) you think someone else has.
Stories are often based on the beliefs that you have.
Stories are the things you think and talk about.
The stories that you tell can include and are not limited to:
The government is…(doing the best that it can with what it’s got, trying to control us, sucks and is out to ruin this country).
My kids are… (cooperative, lovely, monsters, downright annoying).
I am...(smart, insightful, good at, bad at, stupid, not good enough).
He/she/they are...(interesting, fun, gorgeous, clever, not-like-me, odd, mean, ignorant a-hole).
My job is…(awesome, the best ever, I hate it I wish I never had to come back here again).
My childhood was…(happy, playful, downright shitty).
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