Posts in Following Your Path
What You Can Start Doing Now to Pre-Pave for 2017

This will be my last post for 2016.  As I thought about what to write - coupled with my desire to be of value and to provide you with ways to live a good-feeling life - I decided to offer you some ways to start intending and implementing now, ways to align with the true essence of who-you-are.  

When you align with your true essence, it's like you - getting out-of-the-way.  

It's like you - letting the door(s) open for you.  

It's like you - laying on an inner-tube in the water and letting it float you.  

IT'S YOU ALLOWING THE LIFE THAT YOU DESIRE TO COME-ON-IN AND BE YOUR EXPERIENCE.  

When you make it harder than it needs to be, when you struggle, justify, try to prove, argue for your limitations, look for the worst, look for problems, let things bother you, feel like you don't deserve it, compare yourself to others or get into a habit of thinking about things that don't feel good - that's like you shading yourself from the good that's already there - or closing the door to the opportunities that are lined-up for you.  

I want you to live a good life - that means feeling good and having the things and the experiences that you want.  

Alignment is key to all of it and here are some ways to promote that:

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Warning: This May Cause a Heightened Sense of Self-Empowerment

There are a lot of people on this planet who believe that when something good happens it's luck, coincidence or good karma and when something they perceive as "bad" happening, it's the planets, bad luck, bad juju, or bad karma descending upon them as punishment for something wrong that they've done.  

If that's you, this is likely where you'll want to stop reading this. I'm happy you believe in something that makes sense to you.

If you are one who believes (or at least wants to believe) that you create your reality and that everything that happens in your experience is because of what you've been thinking and feeling (even if it's been oblivious on your part) then read on.  It means that you want creative control of your own experience.

Listed below are some guidelines to help you with that.

Warning:  This may cause a heightened sense of self-empowerment.  

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This F*ck It List Will Help You With Your Bucket List

You may have one of those lists full of things that you want to be, do, lick, have, sniff, squeeze, see, play-with, drive, live-in, and possess that you've thrown into a bucket.  

Said list represents things you want to experience before you stop breathing for good.

I'm all for a good Bucket List if that fancies your tickle.  I want you to do all of the things that your heart desires in this lifetime and beyond, so I've created a F*ck It List that just may help you to fulfill that Bucket List.  

1) F*ck working so hard at changing anyone's opinion of you.

People (you included) can only perceive through their own lens.  When you try to convince anyone about anything about you, you've allowed their perspective of you to hook you in to needing to convince them.  

You're not responsible for making someone else's experience of you be different than what they expect.  

While they may hold an opinion of you that's different from what you'd like it to be, let them have it.  You don't have to push against the opinions of others.  You'll be way happier if you don't.  

LET EVERYONE HAVE THEIR VERY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF YOU THROUGH THEIR LENS.  

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Nothing Changes If You Keep Telling the Same Stories

You tell stories all day long…about everything. 

Stories include the meanings you attach, the conclusions you make, the assumptions you assume, the feelings you have and the feelings (and thoughts) you think someone else has.  

Stories are often based on the beliefs that you have. 

Stories are the things you think and talk about.  

The stories that you tell can include and are not limited to:

The government is…(doing the best that it can with what it’s got, trying to control us, sucks and is out to ruin this country).

My kids are… (cooperative, lovely, monsters, downright annoying).

I am...(smart, insightful, good at, bad at, stupid, not good enough).

He/she/they are...(interesting, fun, gorgeous, clever, not-like-me, odd, mean, ignorant a-hole).

My job is…(awesome, the best ever, I hate it I wish I never had to come back here again).

My childhood was…(happy, playful, downright shitty).

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The World Isn't Supposed To Be Just Like You

What a mom believes is love for her child is ridiculous over- indulgence to you.

What you think is easy and manageable may be hard and unmanageable to someone else.  

What your normal is, is extremely weird to another.  

What you believe to be an appropriate and timely way to respond to emails is a distraction and splitting of focus to another.

What you think is organized is someone else’s version of chaos.

What scatter-brained is to you may be creativity to another.

What over-ripe banana is to you may be perfectly sweet and delicious to someone else.

What you consider ho-hum boring and downright uninspiring could be stimulating and fascinating to another.  

What you consider to be late and inconsiderate may be a cultural norm and respectful for someone else.

What you perceive as forward and pushy may be an expression of appreciation to another.

What is a necessity for you may be overindulgence to someone else.

What someone else describes as luxury may be pickings and slim-seconds to you.

What someone else describes as real accomplishment and productivity may be one hour’s worth of focus in your world.

What someone else believes to be the most beautiful place on the planet, is hell-on-water to you.

What's old and wrinkled to someone else may be beauty and power combined to you.

The world isn’t supposed to be just like you. 

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Let The Things You Didn't Plan Unleash You

Several weeks ago while on our way to get ice cream, my daughter and I found ourselves slam-dunk in the middle of a very long traffic jam.  There was little or no movement and no way of knowing how long we’d be there. 

When we set out on our journey, I hadn’t planned on idling for two hours on the freeway en-route to ice-creamy deliciousness that was just-a-short-distance away.  Neither did I plan on Franki (my daughter) having to pee during this extended standstill.  What to do?  

No toilet in sight.  No movement forward.  No way to pull off the side of the road.

This little event was not planned…..

 

I didn’t plan on my mother leaving when I was a young child.

I didn’t plan on divorcing my husband of 15 years, moving to another country and ending up in Pennsylvania.  

I didn’t plan on getting pregnant, having a child, or having a girl.  (I really thought I'd be more suited to having a boy). 

I didn't plan on have an emergency c-section (I had a home birth planned)!

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Can You Dare?

Many of us forego good for great; awesome for roarsome; magnificent for phenomenal; outstanding for astonishing.

When I was thinking about leaving my first husband, I feared that I was being stupid.  I doubted that I could do it and I didn't know if I should.  I didn't know where I was going, let alone the steps to take toward what I wanted.  I feared I was leaving a man and a relationship that were really great and would possibly never realize the more that I was reaching for. 

I had stability and a thriving business with my husband.  We had an exquisite home that was often the hub of gatherings for our friends and family.  We traveled frequently and money was ours to spend freely.  We got along, had fun together and respected each other; I loved this man.

So why would I want to leave when I had it so good?  It didn't make sense to me.

There was nothing fundamentally wrong with our relationship and nothing that I could say was a "deal breaker".  

There was nothing I can say that I needed to run away from. 

But I did feel a sense that I wanted to run toward something more. 

Did I dare want more than what I had? (I made myself wrong for wanting more for a long time).

Did I dare go from really good to roarsome?

Was this even possible???

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You're Right Where You're Supposed to Be

To the guy who thinks he just delivers medical prescriptions to homes...you're saving people's lives.

To the gal who thinks she's just a waitress at the local diner...you're making someone's day with your smile.  

To the young lady who thinks she should have taken violin lessons when she was a little girl...you didn't want to do it anyway.  

To the local garbage pickup guy who thinks he's not good enough to do anything else... you're helping beautify someone's place.

To the hair stylist who thinks she's just doing hair...you're promoting self-love.

To the factory worker who thinks he's just pushing buttons...you're helping build something that's going to benefit a lot of people.

To the dedicated mom who takes her kids to school every day and thinks she should be doing something more important than that...

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